HIGH PERFORMANCE LIVING
The year is fast coming to a close and I know many of us are asking ourselves what we have achieved. At the beginning of the year, we probably had certain goals we wanted to achieve. Some of us wanted to start a new business, others wanted to help their business leap from being a startup to being a stable, mature business. You may have wanted to marry the person you love so dearly but due to financial difficulties, that dream did not come to pass. And now that we are in September 2019, you are wondering why you have not achieved what you set out to achieve.
It happens to the best of us; starting the year with all the vim and motivation but gradually, our fire dies out due to many reasons. But do you know you are responsible for your drive? Do you know you are responsible for making reality the dreams and goals you set for yourself? I have seen people simply crumble at the first obstacle they encounter. And they can never move forward if they do not move past the hurdle.
Encountering challenges and having to deal with stressful situations is a constant variable in our lives. A paper by the Huffpost in 2017 revealed that nearly half of 3,000 professionals surveyed by Profmed said work stressed them more than money, health, family or romance. More than half of the respondents claimed that stress had both an emotional and physical impact on them, with 10.9 percent of the respondents taking time off due to stress-related illness in the past six months. Another area of concern was the increase in the number of professionals who felt they are not managing stress effectively. This year’s number reached 29.15 percent, an increase from the previous year’s result of 28.3 percent, according to the 2016 Stress Index.
If we know that life is full of ups and downs, constant trials and turbulence, why do we get stuck in the same pattern? Why does our focus get stuck on our fear and failures? We forget we have wonderful dreams to look to. We forget to be inspired by the great achievements of others and we forget to expect more of ourselves. That is one of the reasons for our failure to perform our highest. If you are looking for a reason why you are lagging behind, ask yourself how did you approach the day after you received terrible news? Did you beat yourself up and forget to gather momentum to overcome? Or did you learn from the past in preparation for the future? We have to learn as people to expect more of ourselves. By doing this, we will positively influence our actions for the better.
The life of a high-performer is not about the past or even the future; it is always about the present. The present is the most important chance we will ever get in creating the future we want for ourselves. Carol Dweck is an amazing psychologist who has a passion for exploring all things about mindset. In her book titled “Mindset” Carol summarizes decades of research on how a person’s mindset affects achievement and success. Her research shows that there are two mindsets that we all employ: Fixed and Growth.
In a fixed mindset, people believe their basic qualities, like their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits. They spend their time documenting their intelligence or talent instead of developing them. They also believe that talent alone creates success—without effort. These types of people feel defeated after a failure and step away from challenges outside their comfort zone.
In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point. This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment. These types of people view challenges and failures as opportunities to learn and grow. They persist despite setbacks. This mindset is the hallmark of achievement and success.
Our lives are driven by our habits and mindsets. What we continually do is what amounts to the results we have. Our habits can slow our momentum, destabilize us emotionally and bring our lives to a complete halt. But our daily activities do not need to wear us out to the point where we do not want to live anymore. Yes, the year may be coming to an end. Yes, we may have failed miserably at achieving our aspirations and goals. We may no longer want to try for whatever reasons we have convinced ourselves are valid. But you can start today, attempt to turn things around by simply starting with these 4 simple steps.
- Be Present:
As busy corporate workers or entrepreneurs, it is very easy to get stuck in the routine. Many of us have developed bad habits we did not realize existed until things got terrible. This is simply because we got stuck in the routine of doing things. We failed to be present, to bring our consciousness and thinking to carefully analyze our decisions and our actions. Being present does not mean focus on all the troubles you are facing currently. Being present means recognizing that you have challenges, tuning your mind to accept the circumstances, and more importantly thinking forward to find solutions to those challenges. Being present means listening to your body to take a break when you are tired. It means having a good cry when your emotions are too heavy and you cannot seem to keep a level head. Always ask yourself before you do anything, why are you about to do whatever it is you are going to do. How is it going to affect me? Will it hurt others or myself? Being present is being aware that every simple step you take will create that future you will live in. Make sure that you can see the future although you are in the present.
Imagine you are busily getting some work done and someone comes to break some terrible to news to you? What do you do? You can wail, throw your hands in the air and beat yourself up. Yes, you can, but what do you do afterwards? How do you position yourself for better? Do you know the consequences of your failure to rise up to the challenge? What has helped me in very trying times is always reflecting on how much worse things will be if I do not get up the next morning to do what I have to do. Trust me, I have not woken up everyday wanting to do my best. There are days when I did not want to wake up at all. However, every time I think about how much worse I will feel if I do not do what I should, I am driven to get up, suck it up and get it done. Mentally, you must intentionally position yourself to be active irrespective of how you feel. Always ask yourself, what are the consequences if I fail to do this? That realization will give you the adrenaline boost you need to perform.
- Build New Habits
According to researchers at Duke University, habits account for about 40 percent of our behaviors on any given day. Understanding how to build new habits (and how your current ones work) is essential for making progress in your health, your happiness, and your life in general – James Clear. High performance is a lifestyle. Day in day out, you have to ask yourself how day went. What worked well and what did not work out so great? Why did things not go as planned? If you achieved an extraordinary feat, how did you get it done? Do not wait for your whole life to come to a halt before you analyze your habits. Reflect on your day on a daily basis so you can build new habits where there are loop holes. This will release the emotional and mental burden on you to turn your whole life around because the option to make gradual changes is available to you!
I would like to remind you that it is not over even though a month or a year may have passed by. If you are still breathing, then you have a lot more to achieve. It is time to gather up momentum and push yourself. You are your only limit. Whatever you set your mind to do, you can do it. Do not doubt yourself. Is it confidence you need? Start taking the steps to build it today. Do you need money? What value do you have in your hands that you can sell for money? Now, go out there and turn things around for yourself!
Are you ready for TRANSFORMATION?
Dzigbordi K. Dosoo: The H.E.L.P. Coach
Dzigbordi K. Dosoo is a Personal Impact, Professional Growth and Influence Expert specializing in Humanness, Entrepreneurship, Leadership and Power – H.E.L.P.
A career spanning over two decades, she has established herself as a Certified High Performance Coach, Speaker, Author, Wellness Expert and award-winning Entrepreneur with a clientele ranging from C-Suite Executives, Senior Management, Practitioners and Sales Leaders spanning 3 continents.
She is the Founder of Dzigbordi K. Dosoo (DKD) Holdings; a premier lifestyle business group with brand subsidiaries that include Dzigbordi Consulting Group& Allure Africa.
She is one of the most decorated female entrepreneurs in Ghana having being named “CIMG Marketing Woman of the Year” in 2009; “Top 10 most respected CEOs in Ghana, 2012; Global Heart of Leadership Award and, Women Rising “100 Most Influential Ghanaian Women”, 2017. She has also been featured on CNN.
She can be reached on firstname.lastname@example.org and @dzigbordi across all social media platforms.